Serious
Dear Angela,
I started dating when I was 16 and never really got serious (physically or emotionally) with any of my previous boyfriends. I am 20 years old now and was dating someone “effectively” for almost 6 months. There was just this amazing chemistry between us… something I have never felt before. To say the least, he was my first. The relationship was not very healthy for me emotionally. He cheated on me several times and was constantly lying to me. I am not sure if I am in love or not, but I know that I have never felt this way about anyone. I cannot stop thinking about him. What can I do to move on?
- Jessica, 20, RI
You played the field, but didn't get serious with guys. Along comes this one “amazing” fella who screws you up. He lied and cheated and you kept letting him back into your life. Have you ever heard the saying: Once a cheater, always a cheater! You have to take some responsibility for what happened. You need to realize that this fool is not good for you. Recognize that you made a mistake. Being in love requires that two people share the feeling. This guy does not deserve your love. You need someone who will respect and appreciate you. You must understand what kind of person he is. I've been in your shoes. I know what it feels like. I was hurt, but with time I got better and moved on. I believe you will too. Don't get me wrong, I still think about my past relationship. When I do, I feel like crap. I remember all the bad things, and I get a little angry with myself. I start asking myself, why was I so stupid? So I know what you are going through. You probably ask yourself many questions about why you did what you did. Don't be too hard on yourself. It takes time. That's all I know about that.
